The moment you get engaged to the love of your life will be one one of the happiest moments that you will experience in your life. As the experience transitions from being surreal to real, you will start to envision the way you want your perfect day to be on your wedding day. The day should be full of smiles and celebration. In fact, it should be the best party that you’ve ever had in your life, with you and your loved one as the centre of attention.
However, one thing that people don’t often discuss is the pressure around organising a wedding and the stress and friction that it can cause with arguments and differences of opinion between loved ones, family and friends. It’s easy to get branded as a ‘bridezilla’ for the right and wrong reasons. But going through the bridezilla experience can spoil the experience leading up to your wedding day and even affect the relationship with the people that you care about the most. The Mirror published an article that cited 1 in 10 couples splitting before the wedding due to arguments over planning the wedding, which is usually fuelled by affordability, invites and the way the day is planned.
Of course, Oh Perfect Day are here to help you with every step along the way, but here’s a few more ways to ensure that the plans for the biggest day of your life go as smoothly as possible.
Agree to an affordable budget from the outset.
Every person has an idea about the way they want their dream wedding to be. But as you start to create the list of what’s needed to make your dream wedding come true, the reality of the amount of money that’s needed to fund the wedding starts to set in. Things such as hiring the venue, getting a celebrant, purchasing the wedding rings and the wedding dress starts to mount up. These are just a few of the items that will contribute to the financial pressure while planning the wedding.
If you have the funds to have a dream wedding like Pippa Middleton, then go for it. But if you find that you don’t have the funds or that you will need to borrow money or get credit for your perfect wedding day, it can lead towards financial strain that will affect the loving relationship with your partner.
It’s important that you and your partner agree to a budget that the both of you can afford and stick to that budget. By doing this, you will avoid the risk of arguments over money as you will already designate the funds needed for the wedding. Both parties also won’t feel like they are sacrificing what they want as they will work towards a plan that fits with their budget.
Agree on the people that should have an input with the wedding planning.
As soon as you announce that you are getting married, several people will want to put in their two cents on how your wedding day should be planned. Future mothers-in-laws, aunts, uncles, friends, family members and work colleagues are just a few of the people who will voice their opinion on how your wedding day should be. Both you and your partner should agree who should have an input with your wedding plans from the outset. Stick to your guns if anyone else wants to share an opinion. But make sure the end decision lies with the both of you.
If you can afford it, hire a wedding planner.
People that opt to plan their wedding themselves don’t realise how much of an impact it will have on their day to day lives. There will be a need to visit venues, find suppliers, coordinate parties that are involved with the wedding day and even manage the characters and behaviours of the people attending the wedding. Couples that are inexperienced with planning to this magnitude may start to feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities and may end up venting to each other.
Don’t forget to have fun while you are planning the wedding.
Make sure you enjoy the planning process as well as the celebration of the big day. Try to make the wedding planning fun and also participate in activities that will release you from the pressures of wedding planning. Treat yourself to spa days and try to not to do wedding planning activities every moment you have some free time. Also, give yourself something to look forward to with a fun hen night.
Don’t let the pressure of planning your perfect wedding affect the relationship with the people that you love and care about the most. Minimise the opportunities for conflict and confrontation by addressing potential sources of frustration in the beginning and providing yourself with avenues to channel any frustrations that will help you to avoid tension. You want to be the most beautiful and radiant person that you can be on your wedding day.
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